The Paradox Of Self Contentment And Determination

I have a lot of goals. I think it's no exaggeration to say I have a whole bunch of them: Unconditional things I want to do in life. States I want to achieve. It seems to be an impermeable jungle of goal setting, quests and heroic deeds surrounding me 24 hours a day.

Here are just a few random examples: getting the bachelor and the master of science in physical therapy, playing concerts, run the New York Marathon, a new relationship with a woman, snowboarding, skydiving, write a book, grade up my bass playing skills, learn to sing, learn to speak Russian fluently, learn to speak English fluently, stay healthy, find enlightenment, travel the whole USA…I could go on like this for ever.

Obviously there’s no room for boredom in my life. There is no dearth of perspectives. This is actually a blessing and a basic criterion for an awesome life. A person with no goals will have no foothold in life, no way to go forward and of course no opportunity for development.

Whereas I can use my zest for action every day, to become a stronger, more intelligent, more interesting and more unique individual.

But there is a big problem: I am discontented. I am discontented because I didn’t achieve yet what I want. It gives me a feeling of imperfectness and this feeling shows me that I am not the person I want to be yet.

In other words: I have an abundance of perspectives, goals and purposes, but a dearth of self contentment. I can’t enjoy my actual life because I strive for a better one. Although I know that my actual living situation is very good too.

I don’t want to live this way. I don’t want to run through life full of unhappiness and discontentment, always trying to chase the finish line. And after I have reached that goal, rush for the next one. And so on.

I want to achive my goals full of motivation. But I also want to live in peace with myself and my actual life.

So the main question is: how can I achieve this? How can I hit the sweet spot between ambition and laziness, while going for my goals full of motivation and fun at the same time?

Here is the answer: It’s simple!!!

In general we want to achieve goald in order to change an unsatisfying current state in a satisfying target state.

In NLP we learn that a problem is just a goal which is upside down. We just have to turn it over. We have to remodel it. That’s how we reach a desired target state. We can also use the power of remodeling for our self contentment.

Our success is defined as the final reach of the desired target state (the big goal). Our focus is entirely on the outcome. The perspective to get happiness and satisfaction in the moment we reach the big goal, is our actuation.

Now, this seems to be a suggestive and comprehensible attitude. But reaching goals is usually a long process.

We usually don’t reach our desired target states from one day to the next. Most of the time, we have to plan the process in the longterm and consistently take action. By the way: We usually try to achieve multiple goals at the same time and after reaching the first one, the next one is already waiting in the pipeline.

What’s the meaning of all this? Is the meaning of this whole situation, that we are dammed to be unhappy during the actual process of achievement, just getting a short moment of joy at the end of the process. And then jump to the next one?

NO! There is a way to change this!

The system stays the same. Success, focus and actuation are the basic criteria. There is no way you can take one of them from the formula. But what happens if we change the meaning of them? What happens if we just remodel there definitions?

What happens if we don’t define the moment of crossing the finish line, but every little step towards it as a total success?

What happens if we stop putting our focus on the end of the process, but on every little step we take towards it instead?

What happens if we don’t draw the happiness and satisfaction from reaching the goal, but from every token step towards it as our actuation?

This little tuning in our perception will make a massive difference in the judgment of our selves and our actual life.

We start to realize that we can’t fail as long as we take action. All we have to do is to live up to our standard of taking action. And take baby steps towards our goal.

That’s how we can enjoy success on a consistent basis.

We start to see that the actual success comes from taking small steps on a consistent basis. And reaching these steps feels just as good as reaching the final goal. Maybe even better.

We start to feel that it’s getting easier and easier to take the next step. Simply because we get more and more actuation from all the steps we took in the past. It’s like wind in our sails.

We start to recognize that our dreams are in reach and we get more and more certaintly about the fact that we do the right things.

We are happy and contented about all the things we reached. Ergo we are happy and contented with our actual selves and our actual living situation. We are motivated and actuated to go for our big goals because of the things we’ve achieved in the past. We don’t sabotage our opportunities for development because of false contentment and laziness. We now happily achieve instead of trying to achieve happiness.

Here is a shortcut for illustration:

Old perception:

Success = achieving the big goal and target state

Focus = the big goal

Actuation = happiness and satisfaction after achieving the big goal

= discontentedness in the now, doggedness is the present state of mind, just a little bit or no happiness and satisfaction is existent because of the current state, the chase for the luck in the future starts.

New perception:

Success = every little step towards the goal

Focus = the next step towards achieving the goal

Actuation = happiness and satisfaction drawn from every achieved step towards the goal

= contentedness in the now, motivation and ambition are the present state of mind, a lot of happiness and satisfaction is existent because of the current state, we start to enjoy the process.

Conclusion: There is no paradox between self contentment and determination, there is only a favorable and unfavorable perception.

Epilogue: There are a lot of possibilities to up grade your actual state of happiness. My favorite method is the attentiveness meditation. Cultivating attentiveness is very useful and helps to tune the perception as described, because they both go hand in hand. It helps us to accept our imperfectness. It doesn’t matter how many goals we achieve in our life. We will never be perfect, but we can strive to the perfectness and have fun during the process.

It is recommended to apply some time management, too. And it’s also a good idea to let go of few goals. Keeping a small list of just a few but important goals is more effective than striving for everything we want in life.

A last little wisdom: Sitting upright promotes self discipline ;-)

Paul

The Anthony Robbins Diet – Go Green And Superhydrate

I´m not an expert on dieting and nutrition. But lately I'm extremely interested in Anthony Robbins ideas on dieting and nutrition. What he says makes a lot of sense to me, so I decided to implement his ideas in my own life. And it made an incredible shift in the quality of my life. I feel energized and vital all the time. I haven't caught a cold or flue in ages. I don't need as much sleep as I used to. I've lost a lot of body fat. And most importantly: I feel AMAZING: My body floods me with good emotions all the time. And you can do exactly the same. Tony offers entire programs on health and nutrition. In this blog post I'm going to break down his basic philosophy on dieting and nutrition and give you a simple and applicable plan:

1. Superhydrate: Drink at least half of your body weight in ounces. Take your body weight measured in pounds, then divide that by two. Now take the number you got and drink that amount in ounces. Example: My body weight is 178 pounds. Half of that is about 88 pounds. So I have to drink minimum 88 ounces of water a day. That's a minimum of 2.6 liters of water a day. The water should be as alkaline as possible. Add some lemon juice to your water to make it alkaline. Even though lemons are acidic, they have an alkalizing effect after digestion.
   
   
2. Eat 70% living foods. Living foods are foods containing a very high amount of water. Green vegetables and certain fruits consist mainly of water. Green vegetables are also very alkaline. Fruits on the other hand usually contain a lot of sugar (fructose), which can turn into acid in the body and have a negative effect on your energy level and health. Instead of eating cooked green vegetables you can also drink green drinks (green drink powder mixed with water) to alkalize and energize. Or you can take the raw vegetables and make your own green smoothies with a good blender. It really doesn't matter. Just go as green and raw as possible and you're on the right path. Keep in mind: You don't have to be rigid about your diet. You can still eat other stuff. Use the zig zag method. As long as you eat green and living foods most of the time, you'll be fine.

Some days ago I made a „happy day“ and totally let myself go. I ate masses of chocolate, a whole linzer tart, white bread, vitello tonnato and a whole truffle cheese. How do you think I felt after that? Guess what. I felt like total crap. That evening my energy was totally drained, I was tired and felt like a zombie. I even started to get the symptoms of a common cold: My nose started running and I got a slightly sore throat. Some years ago I ate crap like this all day long. My immune system was very weak, I had no energy, I needed tons of sleep to feel renewed and I caught a cold every so often. This „happy day“ was a test for me to see the effects of my old, unhealthy diet. I had forgotten how bad I felt a few years ago. And I can tell you, the difference is incredible. After my „happy day“ I wanted the fruits, vegetables and salads so bad. As Tony says: Nothing tastes as good as fit and healthy feels.

If you want some more information and details about Tonys ideas on diet and nutrition, watch this video of him and Sage sharing their three most important health tips:

Tony Robbins and Sage on dieting and nutrition

Watch the video of Tony and Sage and see if this is something for you. I suggest you try to implement Tonys ideas on nutrition and dieting for a week and observe how your life changes.

All I know is: It changed my life on a very profound level.

And I'm sure it will do the same for you. So at least give it a chance.

The Truth About Approach Anxiety And Outcome Dependency

One of the biggest fears when it comes to meeting women is the fear of rejection. We all know it. There’s that gorgeous girl in the club or in the daytime. And we decide to talk to her. Boooooom! Fear arises inside of us, we’re nervous and our brain floods us with negative thought patterns. Even if we don’t feel any severe approach anxiety, we are still afraid on a more subtle level. This fear is called outcome dependency.

Outcome dependency = Fear of rejection and failure.

There are two different levels of outcome dependency:

• Severe approach anxiety – Crippling fear, catastrophic thinking, sweaty palms, racing heart, being nervous, having negative thought patterns. The intensity of this form of outcome dependence is comparable to the fear of death.

• General outcome dependency – No considerable fear concerning the actual approach, but the need for validation, you are emotionally involved in the outcome, you care whether she likes you or not, her reaction dictates your state, your sense of self is dependent on her.

The first level of outcome dependency is obvious. There are clear symptoms. And as we all know our body can give us some pretty extreme sensations. Severe approach anxeity can be compared to jumping out of an airplane. It’s very intense. On the other hand, the second level of approach anxiety is more subtle. It doesn’t feel like actual fear, it’s more like an unpleasant and weird feeling in the belly. Although we think we don’t care if the girl rejects us, because the severe approach anxiety is absent, we still care on a very subtle and profound level. We need her validation. We want her to like us. We want our game to be perfect. We are emotionally involved in the outcome… and thus we are outcome dependent.

Severe approach anxiety is just an extreme form of outcome dependency. Now, most guys think they have overcome their approach anxiety as soon as level one starts to loose its intensity. The symptoms of extreme fear stop showing up. We know that we won’t die if we approach girls and we have gained enough reference experiences to back it up. That’s awesome. But in reality we still have that weird and unpleasant feeling in the belly when we approach and talk to a girl. Although we don’t have any severe approach anxiety, we still care about rejection and failure. And this caring is just a mild form of fear. We are outcome dependent. And thus, we still have fear.

Let me tell you something about outcome depencency. Outcome dependency is the number one attraction killer in the game. Girls can literally smell outcome dependency – even on a very subtle level  – and it just smells disgusting to them...

It shows them that you’re not centered in your own energy. That you have a weak sense of self. You are the effect and not the cause of the environment, your reality gets dictated by the outside world. And you are afraid. Thus she can’t feel safe by your side. If this is the way you approach women, it must be the way you approach life in general. So – in evolutionary terms – if she lets you fuck her and she gets kids, not only will you not be able to protect her and her kids but those kids will also be shy, weak and needy because you passed your genes on to them. So basically her genes will be weeded out of existence if she lets you fuck her.

So lets get down to the meat. How can you get rid of outcome dependency?

Here are some concepts and tips that can help you detach from the outcome:

• Expose yourself to rejection and failure over and over again. Rejection and failure are great. As time passes you will stop caring about the reactions you get. It will automatically force you to draw state from within and become centered as a man. With every rejection and failure your outcome dependency will fade away more and more.

• Change your outcome into something that is within your circle of influence. If your outcome is getting the girl or getting her validation, you will have a hard time meeting women. Your outcome has to be outside of pick up performance. For example, play the 30 seconds game, as Tyler from Real Social Dynamics suggests: Make your wingman count down from 30. Within that time you have to approach a girl or he will punch you in the arm. Do the same for him. This makes „beating the time“ your outcome and your outcome is not performance related. You can also narrow your criteria for success to survive for 2-minutes in every set. It doesn’t matter if they like you or not, if you reach the 2-minutes mark, it was a success. Again, it’s crucial to change your outcome into something not performance and pick up related. Be creative...

• Start meditating. If you’re present to the moment, you are not emotionally attached to the outcome. Presence is the opposite of outcome dependency. In a state of presence you are not ego-driven and you don’t care about the past and the future. You don’t have any chatter going on in your head. You’re calm and relaxed, just accepting what the present moment is giving you.

Nutrition And Working Out - The Basis Of Being A Cool Guy

Alexander of Real Social Dynamics interviewed Tim some weeks ago. This part of the interview really resonated with me, so I thought it would be a good idea to share it with you guys. In the interview Tim talks about how to check in Mister Cool by having consistency around your daily life. The key to checking in Mister Cool, as Tim would call it, is to have a good diet and work out.

This is so true. 

Your diet is the basis of your life. This is not some kind of new wisdom. Back in 1863, the philosopher Ludwig Feuerbach said: "You are what you eat". Although this quote also includes a sociocultural aspect, it is totally applicable to physical and mental health. If you eat crap, you feel like crap. If you eat awesome foods, you feel awesome. It's as simple as that. So to feel happier and more energized in general and to be in state all the time, it is crucial to handle your nutrition. Most people totally underestimate the huge effect nutrition has on their emotions.

So get your nutrition down. I can't tell you what the best diet is. I honestly don't know. There are quite some people who live by the Paleo Diet. And it seems to be awesome. I have never tried it. Or you could try an alkaline diet and start drinking green drinks as Tony Robbins suggests. Basically it's a good idea to eat a lot of green vegetables and fruits - focus on low-processed foods. Go raw. And I can promise you will feel an unbelievable boost of energy in your daily life. You won't catch colds and flus anymore because your immune system does a great job. You will feel less tired and drained. The quality of your life will change on a profound level.

If you're not sure what to eat, here's a good start. Grab yourself a copy of Jonny Bowdens book The 150 Healthiest Foods on Earth. This way you don't have to choose a specific diet.

Furthermore you have to move your body. Working out on a consistent basis is the key to feeling energized and happy. If I don't hit the gym for a week or two I start feeling like a zombie. My negative thought patterns kick in and I feel like crap. Mister Cool is well out of site.

No energy. No motivation. No drive.

So work out at least 2-3 times a week. That's what I do and it makes me feel like a champ. There's no better feeling than the feeling after a hard work out. As Tony Robbins says: "Motion equals emotion". You have to move your body in order to feel good. Work those muscles. Get your heart pumping. The effect is incredible. You feel renewed, fresh, strong and vital. And guess what? This will make your journey of becoming successful with women so much easier. You will be way more relaxed and not take things to serious while you're progressing.

Get those two parts of your life handled as soon as possible. I can't stress this enough. A good diet and working out consistently are the basis of being a cool guy. If you're messy in these areas it will negatively effect all other areas of your life. Don't let that happen! Start checking in Mister Cool on a consistent basis. And watch the effect it has on your dating life and all other aspects of your life.

Physical Game During Daytime And On The Street

In this article I want to talk to you about physical escalation in the daytime and on the street. Most guys are afraid of being physical in these situations. It seems weird, socially miscalibrated and inappropriate to touch strangers on the street. Since we were kids our parents and society told us not to talk to and touch strangers. Although our parents and society had no bad intentions... 

That is so wrong when it comes to attracting women!

Physical game is a huge part of creating attraction. If you don’t feel comfortable being physical with girls in clubs and in the daytime, your game simply sucks. Attraction is not created by words. Yes, you can be funny, entertaining, interesting and challenging just by talking. That’s true. But it is near to impossible to create attraction without being physical. If you don’t touch the girl early in the interaction, you are setting the frame of a friendship and not of a sexual relationship. Physical game is crucial in order to relate to her as a male to a female. It’s what creates the sexual vibe of the intereaction... and thus generates attraction.

But what is physical escalation and how is it done? Basically you just have to be physical with the girl in a confident and dominant way. Girls hate nothing more than guys touching them in a non-confident way. It’s creepy as hell.

So it’s crucial to be confident and dominant while escalating. No testing the waters. The law of state transference applies to physical game: What you feel, she feels! If you feel creepy and weird while escalating, she will feel the same way. But if you feel good, entitled and amused while escalating physically, she will just love it.

Here’s what makes physical game work:

·         Dominance – No testing the waters, no holding back, no fear of escalating

·         Immediacy – Get physical as soon as possible, start within under one minute

·         State – Feeling comfortable, entitled and natural and having no fear

But how should you touch girls that you’ve just met? Generally it’s a good rule to start with low intensity moves and climb up the escalation ladder...

Here are some moves you can use and perform in this order:  

Handshake, high five, spinning, hug, lifting (+ spinning), claw, make out

Most people might think these physical game moves are only good for clubs. But you can actually perform most of these moves during daytime and on the street. All you have to do is calibrate. If she doesn’t feel comfortable and you do these moves, you will creep out the girl. During daytime the girl won’t be in a social mode, thus not expecting any physicality. You have to slowly climb up the ladder and always keep an eye on her comfort levels during the daytime and on the street: Start with a handshake and introduce yourself, then give her a high five for saying something cool during the interaction. It doesnt’t really have to be cool, just use anything as an excuse to high five her. After that go for a hug. When you go for the hug and she complies, a window of new opportunities openes: From here you can now proceed to lifting and spinning her. When you’re hugging her and she’s locked into your arms, you can basically do whatever you want. She has to comply with your lifting and spinning. She’s more or less „defenseless“. So now you can go for it…

After you have lifted and spinned her, the frame and energy of the interaction is set. You’re relating to her as a male to a female and not as a friend to a friend. You can keep on escalating and try to go for a make out at some point. However, if the interaction is going well and you’ve escalated physically, you should try to go on an instant date with her and then move things on from there.

One last thing, physical game doesn’t have to be smooth and perfectly calibrated in order for it to work. Don’t freak out if you get resistance. Just take a step back and reinitialize the physical escalation again.

If you want to go deeper down the rabbit hole and learn more about physical game, grab yourself a copy of The Physical Game by Osvaldo Garcia. It's the best and most down to earth resource I know on this topic.

I learned all of my physical game from him...

The Power Of Smiling - Why Emotions Are Contagious

In this article I want to talk to you about something that had a huge impact on my game: Smiling. Specifically in daygame smiling is so important. I can’t stress this enough. The quality of my smile was – and still is – the key factor that makes my daygame approaches work or not. Here’s an example of what I consider a successful approach in daytime:

I see a girl walking by and my core masculine intent goes: That’s for me!

I immediately put on the biggest and most cheesy grin I can, boost all the positive energy that’s inside of me, turn around, sprint after her and open her from the side with some slight kino on the upper arm. She turns around, sees me and starts smiling immediately. She has no other possibility than to smile and feel good, because she’s feeling what I’m feeling. This is the law of state transference. She get’s sucked into my reality literally within milliseconds. And boom! The set is opened and hooked… before I have even said one single word.

And believe me, these moments will be some of the most beautiful moments in your life. A gorgeous girl just got approached and stopped by a stranger in the middle of the daytime, she doesn’t even know yet why (you could be a solicitor, someone telling her she lost something, a robber), and you’re already vibing with her. You’re exchanging good emotions and vibing with a total stranger, without saying one single word.

And you know there is no way this girl is going to reject or not like you.

It’s near to impossible…

Let’s repeat this: Whatever you feel, she feels!

Now, the easiest way to make yourself feel good is simply by smiling (but there are limits to this as discussed at the end of this article). Think of smiling as your secret super power to boost your state with good emotions and then transfer all of that on to her. Automatically. Without you doing anything else than feeling good…

I also use extreme smiling in clubs, although it can appear try hard in that environment. Just experiment with it in all kinds of social environments. A few days ago I was shopping for groceries, I was walking through the super market and feeling great. Then this old lady walks by and she’s looking pretty unsatisfied and unhappy. So I give myself that extra boost of positivity, put on a hughe, warm smile and make eye contact with her. As she walks by I could see how her facial expressions totally turned around. Within milliseconds this old, unsatisfied lady was smiling at me. She felt what I felt and it transfered onto her. It happens unconsciously. Even if they consciously don’t want to smile. For those few milliseconds my emotions dictate her emotions and her emotions dictate her to smile. It’s so simple.

But be careful. Your smile has to be genuine. This is key... it’s not the physical movement of your lips and the mechanical change of your facial expressions that make it work. It’s the authenticity and the realness of your emotions behind the smile. View the smile kind of as a gate. If you feel good AND put on a huge smile, then the smile will multiply the effect of the natural state transference. The smile is like a gate that’s being opened, letting all your good emotions flow out onto the people around you. But just opening the gate without really feeling good doesn’t work. If you feel bad and open the gate, it’s still just your bad emotions that are coming through to the other person. So don’t try to smile… The more you try to force the smile, the less genuine it comes across and it won’t work. I’ve tried all of it.

So to make your smile work all the time, practice feeling good. Start cultivating positive thought patterns and get rid of your negative thought patterns. Be present. Be self amused. Go with the current of the world. Be grateful that you live and breathe, that’s all you need to be happy.

Now open the gate to your emotions: Smile!

And all that awesomeness will flow out…

The speed of success: Discovering your inner clock of growth

I remember myself being very unsatisfied with my level of success for a long time. Although I had great interactions with girls and got tons of numbers, I felt very unhappy with my level of success after about one year of game. The reason for this was simple: I constantly compared myself with the best ones. I set myself a much to high standard and it was impossible to live up to it at the time. Because my criteria for success was being perfect, I couldn’t appreciate the real level of success that I had reached. I was beating myself up for not being able to attract every woman in this world. This feeling of pain was actually bigger than my joy of getting better and better in meeting women.

This also occurred in other areas. When I started doing daygame I had an overwhelming fear to approach girls using a direct opener. But then, after some weeks I had figured out how to act despite of my emotions and I did a ton of daygame approaches every week. But now there was a new problem: I couldn’t convert my daygame closes into dates. I had figured out how to very successfully open beautiful girls on the street, how to have a 2-5 minute conversation with them, get them attracted instantly and then get their contact details. But a lot of them were flakes. So what did I do? Guess what… I was constantly beating myself up for not being able to instantly have a sexual relationship with those girls. Having unrealistic high standards and not accepting and appreciating my small successes – which were actually huge break throughs - made me unsatisfied.

So I had to learn how to be grateful for my journey and appreciate my level of success. A good way of doing this is by writing a self development diary and by holding record of all your successes. As soon as I did this, I really started to see my successes and appreciated them. By holding record of my successes I could see that things where moving in the right direction and that I was making progresses every week. So I really want to encourage you to do the same and hold record of your personal development process. This way you are able to observe and intensify the experience of your transformation and really appreciate the changes you are going through every day and every week.

Something else that frustrated me for a long time was the pace of my transformation. I was so hungry for success that I wanted it instantly. I wanted to became good with women and a better person as fast as possible. Unfortunately this was a huge source of stress for me, because I was ignoring my own inner rhythm of transformation. I wanted results too fast and thus didn’t pay any attention to my personal learning curve and pace. So what I found out is that every person has his own rhythm of transformation. It usually oscillates between these three phases :

Phase 1: Pain and dissatisfaction: During this phase you feel unsatisfied with the current level of your success. You’re hungry for more development and transformation and link pain to not taking enough action towards your goals. You say: « Enough of this, it’s time to grow... »

Phase 2: Willpower and action: In this phase you use your willpower to make the changes that you want in your life. This involves: Setting your new goals, making decisions, working on an action plan and finally taking action. You step out of your comfort zone and commit yourself to reach the goals and standards you have set for yourself.

Phase 3: Incorporation of the learned: In this phase you feel satisfied because you took specific actions towards your goals and reached a level of new success. You have successfully stepped out of your comfort zone and thus grown your personality. Even if you didn’t reach your goals 100% you still took action and made noticeable progress. Even if you only reached 20% of your goals, you have successfully grown. Just set smaller and more achievable goals the next time. However, by taking action you have learned tons of new stuff and made lots of new reference experiences. Your unconscious mind automatically implements the new learned stuff.

Optional Phase 4: Observing Ego Session: In this optional phase you consciously direct your awareness to the changes and the transformation you have experienced during the last three phases. You look at what you have learned and appreciate the new level of success you have reached. Examples for this phase are: Writing a success / self development diary. Holding record of your successes. Talking with close friends about your experiences etc. It’s importent to add this optional phase to the three natural phases of transformation in order to appreciate your changes and feel gratitude for where you are on your journey of personal transformation.

The pace of your growth simply depends on the speed of oscillation between these phases. The quicker you run through the cycle of these phases, the faster you will get success. The faster you progress from « pain and unsatisfaction » to « willpower and action » and start over again, the faster you grow. But what determines how fast and in what intervalls you run through this cycle of transformation? It really just comes down to how much you want success. If you really want it bad, you will link more « pain and dissatisfaction » to where you are and thus you will be automatically pulled towards taking more action. However, it’s important to find your own rhythm. If you run through the cycle too fast, you may feel overwhelmed and burn out. If you run through the cycle too slow, you may feel depressive. Just find your own, personal rhythm and then stick with it. Just observe in which intervalls you link massive amounts of pain and dissatisfaction to where you are in your journey. And you will quickly discover your inner clock of personal growth…

Now that you know this: Stop beating yourself up for not getting success fast enough. Trust in the pace of your growth and acknowledge that your transformation will take some time. As long as you’re not stagnating and instead are oscillating between the above phases at your own inner speed, you will finally reach your goals. If your inner clock is a little bit slower, don’t worry. It will just take you a little bit longer because your unconscious mind needs more time to adjust to the process of development and implementation of the new changes. If your inner clock is tickin’ fast, cool! That just means you’re a very fast learner and are extremely hungry for success. But don’t forget: A big part of your reward is the journey of transformation in itself. Finally reaching your goals and living a cool lifestyle will one day just be a desired side product.