The Power Of Smiling - Why Emotions Are Contagious

In this article I want to talk to you about something that had a huge impact on my game: Smiling. Specifically in daygame smiling is so important. I can’t stress this enough. The quality of my smile was – and still is – the key factor that makes my daygame approaches work or not. Here’s an example of what I consider a successful approach in daytime:

I see a girl walking by and my core masculine intent goes: That’s for me!

I immediately put on the biggest and most cheesy grin I can, boost all the positive energy that’s inside of me, turn around, sprint after her and open her from the side with some slight kino on the upper arm. She turns around, sees me and starts smiling immediately. She has no other possibility than to smile and feel good, because she’s feeling what I’m feeling. This is the law of state transference. She get’s sucked into my reality literally within milliseconds. And boom! The set is opened and hooked… before I have even said one single word.

And believe me, these moments will be some of the most beautiful moments in your life. A gorgeous girl just got approached and stopped by a stranger in the middle of the daytime, she doesn’t even know yet why (you could be a solicitor, someone telling her she lost something, a robber), and you’re already vibing with her. You’re exchanging good emotions and vibing with a total stranger, without saying one single word.

And you know there is no way this girl is going to reject or not like you.

It’s near to impossible…

Let’s repeat this: Whatever you feel, she feels!

Now, the easiest way to make yourself feel good is simply by smiling (but there are limits to this as discussed at the end of this article). Think of smiling as your secret super power to boost your state with good emotions and then transfer all of that on to her. Automatically. Without you doing anything else than feeling good…

I also use extreme smiling in clubs, although it can appear try hard in that environment. Just experiment with it in all kinds of social environments. A few days ago I was shopping for groceries, I was walking through the super market and feeling great. Then this old lady walks by and she’s looking pretty unsatisfied and unhappy. So I give myself that extra boost of positivity, put on a hughe, warm smile and make eye contact with her. As she walks by I could see how her facial expressions totally turned around. Within milliseconds this old, unsatisfied lady was smiling at me. She felt what I felt and it transfered onto her. It happens unconsciously. Even if they consciously don’t want to smile. For those few milliseconds my emotions dictate her emotions and her emotions dictate her to smile. It’s so simple.

But be careful. Your smile has to be genuine. This is key... it’s not the physical movement of your lips and the mechanical change of your facial expressions that make it work. It’s the authenticity and the realness of your emotions behind the smile. View the smile kind of as a gate. If you feel good AND put on a huge smile, then the smile will multiply the effect of the natural state transference. The smile is like a gate that’s being opened, letting all your good emotions flow out onto the people around you. But just opening the gate without really feeling good doesn’t work. If you feel bad and open the gate, it’s still just your bad emotions that are coming through to the other person. So don’t try to smile… The more you try to force the smile, the less genuine it comes across and it won’t work. I’ve tried all of it.

So to make your smile work all the time, practice feeling good. Start cultivating positive thought patterns and get rid of your negative thought patterns. Be present. Be self amused. Go with the current of the world. Be grateful that you live and breathe, that’s all you need to be happy.

Now open the gate to your emotions: Smile!

And all that awesomeness will flow out…